Making a safety plan involves identifying the steps you can take to increase your safety and helps to prepare you and your children in advance for the possibility of further violence. You do not deserve to be abused. If you are currently living in an abusive relationship, are thinking about leaving, or have recently left, there are steps you can take to increase your safety. The following suggestions will help keep you safe!

If You are Currently With an Abusive Partner:

  • Know your partners triggers (i.e.) stress, pay days, alcohol
  • When you suspect there will be an argument, move to a space that is low risk
  • Try to stay out of places that do not have exits (i.e.) bathrooms, bedrooms
  • Try to stay out of places that have weapons such as knives or guns
  • Know your escape route from different areas of your home, in case you do need to leave
  • Teach your children the escape routes and practice using the escape routes from different areas
  • Have a safe meeting place outside the home in case you and your children become separated
  • Ensure your children know your address and telephone number and teach your children how to use the telephone and dial 911 in case of emergency
  • Have a code word for your children and your family so that they know to call for help when they hear that word
  • If you call someone (friend, family member) and you don’t want your partner to know, call another number that is not threatening to your partner immediately after, so your call cannot be traced
  • Be aware of your children’s ability to keep information confidential and be sure they do not overhear information that you do not want your partner to know
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Your safety and the safety of your children is the most important thing. Women cannot always avoid violent incidents. In order to increase safety and prepare for further violence, here are some suggestions:

If You are Planning to Leave:

If you are considering leaving an abusive relationship there are some actions that you may want to follow to increase your safety.  Here are some suggestions:

  • Call the police in an emergency or if you want to be assured of your safety
  • Call our crisis line (780) 875-0966 to get information and support
  • Make a Safety Plan.
  • Talk to a friend or family member.
  • Look for a safe place to stay (with family or at a shelter)
  • Prepare an Escape Plan.
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Making a safety plan involves identifying the steps you can take to increase your safety and helps to prepare you and your children in advance for the possibility of further violence.

Safety Plan

  • Prepare and practice your escape plan.
  • Copy and collect all important documents and place them in a safe place (friend’s home or safety deposit box in a bank that your partner does not go).
    • Health Care and Social Insurance cards.
    • Credit and bank cards, cheque book.
    • Birth certificates (for you and the children).
    • Passport, immigration or citizenship papers.
    • Titles of property, lease, mortgage, and insurance papers.
    • Immunization card for the children.
    • Driver’s license and car registration.
    • Custody order, separation or divorce papers.
  • If possible, put aside an amount of money in cash to avoid being detected when you leave
  • Keep an extra set of car or house keys at a safe place (friend or family’s house)
  • Keep change or purchase a pre-paid calling card and use a pay phone to avoid being detected when you leave
  • Open a separate bank account in your name. Put as much as you can into it. You may be able to get your bank statement sent to your work or even friend’s address.
  • If you call someone (friend, family member) and you don’t want your partner to know, call another number that is not threatening to your partner immediately after, so your call cannot be traced
  • Be aware of your children’s ability to keep information confidential and be sure they do not overhear information that you do not want your partner to know

Escape Plan

  • Decide where you are going to go; somewhere safe and secure where you can decide what your next steps are.
  • Talk to your children. They need to know which neighbour to run to in an emergency. If they are old enough, teach them the phone number to call and what to say if they are trapped in the house.
  • If you decide to leave, take the children with you, if possible. It is not considered kidnapping; both parents have equal rights to their children, unless there is a court order. If you try to get them later, the police cannot help you to remove them from their other parent unless you have a valid court order.
  • Speak to people you trust. Let them know what is going on in case you need their help.
  • Call a shelter or transition house and talk to the staff. Even if you do not go to a shelter they can offer words of support and help you work out your plan.
  • Find a way to get to your emergency safe place. It can be a friend, neighbour, taxi, etc.
  • Find someone to care for your pets. The Lloydminster Interval Home partners with the SPCA to house your pets if you decide to leave your home
  • Find somewhere outside your home to keep your emergency bag and important documents.

Emergency Bag

  • clothes for you and your children for a few days
  • medical prescriptions and medications, if required
  • money, bank books, credit cards
  • driver’s license and car registration and insurance
  • identification and important papers (marriage certificate, birth certificate, school records, social insurance numbers)
  • hospitalization numbers/cards for you and the children
  • First Nations status card, treaty numbers
  • immigration/citizenship papers, passports
  • medical records, police records, your journal or diary, and other evidence of violence
  • copies of your lease, mortgage or other deeds
  • your address/phone book
  • children’s favourite toys and books
  • your favourite possessions and photos (things that give you comfort)

Important Documents

  • Medical prescriptions.
  • Money, bank books, credit cards.
  • Health Care cards and Social Insurance cards.
  • Birth certificates (for you and the children).
  • Passport, immigration or citizenship papers.
  • Titles of property, lease, mortgage, and insurance papers.
  • Immunization card for the children.
  • Driver’s license and car registration.
  • Custody order, separation or divorce papers.